How to stay away from hurting YOU. I am sure you might be thinking now, "What a lot of bull". Seriously, if you think that, then think again, especially if you are in business.
Do you know that by pointing finger at others you actually blaming yourself?
Most people make all types of mistakes in their life, job or indeed in business, and then all hell opens up at them. The biggest part of this type of reactions can be pointed to emotions. We allow anger, lack of assertiveness and lack of understanding to take over and then things get out of control. We know this, but somehow we are letting things get out of control and we take joy in reducing someone to the ground by turning away from them, and telling everyone else, how bad that other people are. In that multitude of emotions, we don`t care how that person who has made a mistake is feeling, we don`t care that his/her family will suffer, but most of all we don`t know, or care what will happen to our own reputation, because at that time, for as long as it takes to find another object of hate we concentrate on that culprit's bad deeds, totally forgetting or being ignorant to the real damage we are doing to ourselves.
Such behaviour could be compared to a pack of Wolf`s tearing apart a fallen calf.
But if we look at a mistake from another perspective and allow our emotions to be calm by keeping away from the "pack", we will be able to see matters clearly and approach it from a spiritual perspective.
Most people know that we are here for a reason, some are aware that our purpose of living is to learn from mistakes. moreover, some people are also aware that "stamping" on those who made a mistake is wrong. Because what if that person had to make that mistake and learn from it, by at the same time giving a lesson to others? What if those others, instead of looking into the situation and ask themselves a question " Why did have happened and what information is here for me? What should I learn from this?". In the mids of our anger and hate campaign that we lead against that person, we are missing the most valuable lesson for us!
If you read this far, you may be thinking," yeah, right! That would be great", but if you are thinking, "what a load of rubbish", then clearly something is amiss here.
The Law of Attraction is quite clear on this, by criticising others, you are taking that bad "karma" on yourself. The truth is that none of us has a right to criticise or destroy another person. We are all here to learn, and if we see or witness something bad, we should learn a lesson and find its source within us. Let the person or people who made the mistake to learn from it as well, because you don`t know why they did what they did and instead of pressing their head to keep it underwater, help them to understand and learn to keep away from committing another mistake.
Yes! I hear your voices, " But What?! Do you mean that I have to keep that person employed, or do I keep him/her as my partner?!
NO! I don`t mean that at all. What you can do is talk with them, release them from their employment, or remove from the company, but don`t push them further underwater than they already are. Let them live and allow them to work on their future. You have no idea what they are going through in life. You don`t know their private life, you don`t know whom they have to support at home.
On the other hand, you must understand that when "drowning", one will try every possible way to survive, so instead of "killing" them, over, try to let him/her/them to take time and rebuild again. Understand that everyone on earth has a mission, and who can confirm that the mistake others do is not a lesson needed by your soul?
If you look at the most successful people in the world, did you ever heard any of them, Richard Branson, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, criticising others? And, I am not talking about constructive criticism, as this is a totally different subject.
This article is about people who are blind to the things and reasons for things that every human came to this earth with. But instead of learning from the mistakes of others, they focus on hating them and "stoning" them for it, while being completely ignorant of the damage they do to themselves.
As an example, I will bring you my own story from twenty years ago.
Back in 1994, I was asked to manage a social club owned partly by the local community and partly by a London based organisation. I was already working there, running my own restaurant, and it was easy to do the club sie. On the day of my takeover, myself and members of the club`s committee have counted the cash and I signed for it. Soon I have discovered that no one was entering any income or expenses for months, and the club was losing money every day. Not knowing what I was doing, yet, I started to ender everything into the books, and closely monitored events at the club. At the same time quickly started to build the customer base and plan the growth of the club. The Accountant for the club was based in London and six months later she came to check records and praised me for my work. She took the cash book to London and returned by post a few days later. On the day the books returned, she called me and informed me that in the cash column she made an entry of £1762.27 cash and said that this was the cash found in the club prior to my takeover. She made an entry in the cash column and I should ignore it. I did as she asked, but then sometimes later she forgot about this entry and took it against me sometimes later claiming that I have taken this amount from the club. I have not been given the chance to prove her wrong, thus immediately resigned. It took me some time to prove her wrong in the court and in addition to prove that I left £2600.00 cash more than there should be. But in the meantime, her actions along with other members of the club have done everything to ruin my reputation and nearly take my own life. Fortunately, my Guardian Angel did not allow me to kill myself.
The above story is clearly showing, what hate activity can do to people. Especially for people who are in business. Therefore before we start to push someone's head underwater, stop and think about the real damage we do to ourselves.
If you have any comments, or stories, please write them below.
M.D.K.
Most people make all types of mistakes in their life, job or indeed in business, and then all hell opens up at them. The biggest part of this type of reactions can be pointed to emotions. We allow anger, lack of assertiveness and lack of understanding to take over and then things get out of control. We know this, but somehow we are letting things get out of control and we take joy in reducing someone to the ground by turning away from them, and telling everyone else, how bad that other people are. In that multitude of emotions, we don`t care how that person who has made a mistake is feeling, we don`t care that his/her family will suffer, but most of all we don`t know, or care what will happen to our own reputation, because at that time, for as long as it takes to find another object of hate we concentrate on that culprit's bad deeds, totally forgetting or being ignorant to the real damage we are doing to ourselves.
Such behaviour could be compared to a pack of Wolf`s tearing apart a fallen calf.
But if we look at a mistake from another perspective and allow our emotions to be calm by keeping away from the "pack", we will be able to see matters clearly and approach it from a spiritual perspective.
Most people know that we are here for a reason, some are aware that our purpose of living is to learn from mistakes. moreover, some people are also aware that "stamping" on those who made a mistake is wrong. Because what if that person had to make that mistake and learn from it, by at the same time giving a lesson to others? What if those others, instead of looking into the situation and ask themselves a question " Why did have happened and what information is here for me? What should I learn from this?". In the mids of our anger and hate campaign that we lead against that person, we are missing the most valuable lesson for us!
If you read this far, you may be thinking," yeah, right! That would be great", but if you are thinking, "what a load of rubbish", then clearly something is amiss here.
The Law of Attraction is quite clear on this, by criticising others, you are taking that bad "karma" on yourself. The truth is that none of us has a right to criticise or destroy another person. We are all here to learn, and if we see or witness something bad, we should learn a lesson and find its source within us. Let the person or people who made the mistake to learn from it as well, because you don`t know why they did what they did and instead of pressing their head to keep it underwater, help them to understand and learn to keep away from committing another mistake.
Yes! I hear your voices, " But What?! Do you mean that I have to keep that person employed, or do I keep him/her as my partner?!
NO! I don`t mean that at all. What you can do is talk with them, release them from their employment, or remove from the company, but don`t push them further underwater than they already are. Let them live and allow them to work on their future. You have no idea what they are going through in life. You don`t know their private life, you don`t know whom they have to support at home.
On the other hand, you must understand that when "drowning", one will try every possible way to survive, so instead of "killing" them, over, try to let him/her/them to take time and rebuild again. Understand that everyone on earth has a mission, and who can confirm that the mistake others do is not a lesson needed by your soul?
If you look at the most successful people in the world, did you ever heard any of them, Richard Branson, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, criticising others? And, I am not talking about constructive criticism, as this is a totally different subject.
This article is about people who are blind to the things and reasons for things that every human came to this earth with. But instead of learning from the mistakes of others, they focus on hating them and "stoning" them for it, while being completely ignorant of the damage they do to themselves.
As an example, I will bring you my own story from twenty years ago.
Back in 1994, I was asked to manage a social club owned partly by the local community and partly by a London based organisation. I was already working there, running my own restaurant, and it was easy to do the club sie. On the day of my takeover, myself and members of the club`s committee have counted the cash and I signed for it. Soon I have discovered that no one was entering any income or expenses for months, and the club was losing money every day. Not knowing what I was doing, yet, I started to ender everything into the books, and closely monitored events at the club. At the same time quickly started to build the customer base and plan the growth of the club. The Accountant for the club was based in London and six months later she came to check records and praised me for my work. She took the cash book to London and returned by post a few days later. On the day the books returned, she called me and informed me that in the cash column she made an entry of £1762.27 cash and said that this was the cash found in the club prior to my takeover. She made an entry in the cash column and I should ignore it. I did as she asked, but then sometimes later she forgot about this entry and took it against me sometimes later claiming that I have taken this amount from the club. I have not been given the chance to prove her wrong, thus immediately resigned. It took me some time to prove her wrong in the court and in addition to prove that I left £2600.00 cash more than there should be. But in the meantime, her actions along with other members of the club have done everything to ruin my reputation and nearly take my own life. Fortunately, my Guardian Angel did not allow me to kill myself.
The above story is clearly showing, what hate activity can do to people. Especially for people who are in business. Therefore before we start to push someone's head underwater, stop and think about the real damage we do to ourselves.
If you have any comments, or stories, please write them below.
M.D.K.
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